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TGNG2G's avatar

I think this is the reason why the advice of "what would you tell a friend" exists. I think it's so natural that we have an easier time seeing the best/right next step or mindset, etc. when it's for someone else, then it is for ourselves. I think that everyone's reason for being harsher on themselves might be different, but that it's pretty universal (and we're all shy to admit how nasty we can be in our heads, when we talk to ourselves).

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Kat Harrison's avatar

This is so wise! And I think you’re right about how giving advice in that way is almost second nature (it’s also heartening to hear that it’s not just us). Now you have me thinking a lot about the “asking for a friend” phrase as well!

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